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So now John Edwards has admitted he’s had an affair and once again infidelity is in the news.  Nary a week goes by where the headlines don’t blast us with the latest philanderings.  If you believe in the veracity of the family this type of news is depressing.  Bad news makes the NEWS.    No one’s plastering headlines that you’ve been faithful to your spouse yet again today.  So what do we make of another politician’s wanderings?

As a marriage counselor, I’ve seen many couples in recent years who met on-line. These couples have several commonalities.

My son Brandon, lives in Omaha with his wife Philly and 3 day old son, Alyas (congratulations to Mary Sue and I…our first grandchild! EEEHAA!). We visited them right after Alyas was born. What fun! Brandon is a seminary student and planning to go on to do doctoral work in philosophy. He often talks with friends his age who are thinking of getting married and he told me he’s been able to summarize what it takes to be married in one sentence. Since in marriage counseling I work with people in this area for a living, I was interested in how he’d decided to succinctly put one of the world’s great mysteries. He tells them: “Don’t get married if you like being selfish.”