Comments from Therapy Clients
(letters and releases on file)
When we had several major stressors appear in our lives, I was at a crisis point and took in out on our marriage. Dr. Wall pointed out that bringing job stress home with me wasn't fair to either of us or our family, and gave us tools by which we could discuss the tension without losing control of the situation. We found out that even after 18 years of marriage, we could use lessons in communication. For that we remain very grateful. I see the techniques he gave us staying with us forever as long as we continue to appreciate their value, and recommend his method of marital counseling to anyone feeling they need a fresh approach in dealing with a troubled relationship.
Married 18 years; Husband: Retired Engineer; Wife: Medical Profession
After a four month separation, my husband and I decided to try one more time to make our marriage work. Two weeks later it was obvious we needed help, or a divorce was imminent. A friend recommended Bing Wall, and my husband and I went to see him. Bing was wonderful! He listened to both our stories, and let us get our feelings out. Then he began to give us the tools we needed to save our marriage. Without Bing's help, we would have become just another statistic–one more "single mom," and one more "weekend dad." Bing Wall saved our marriage, and gave our children back the happy, secure childhood they deserve Thanks to Bing, my husband and I now have the communication skills to keep us loving each other, and respecting each other.
Married 12 years; Husband: Management; Wife: Advertising
When we first called Bing Wall I didn't know where (our) marriage was headed except downhill. All we did was have very hateful fights... Finally, I told (my husband) that we either get help or get a divorce. That led us to Bing. Since our first visit... we both feel we've come a long (way)... We also realize we still have a ways to go, but at least now we can see the light at the end of the tunnel. We still are having arguments and eruptions, but at least now they are much smaller, ...and are getting farther and farther apart.
We have gone from being almost completely negative to almost completely positive with our lives. We are now going to church regularly and meeting a few people here in our community. Through coming to Bing we have come to realize that we both have to change and allow our lives to grow. But we also realize that this will allow us as a couple to grow stronger and closer.
Married 1 year; Husband: Factory Worker; Wife: Day Care Provider
Bing has given us the positive counseling we need to survive the difficult challenges of an addiction, plus the communication tools to solve our own problems and enjoy a happy marriage ahead of us. His Christian-based principles, friendly ear, and confidential atmosphere make marriage counseling a pleasant experience with lasting effects–his services would be helpful to anyone in any stage of a relationship. We consider Heart to Heart Communication to be a priceless investment in our family!
Married 5 years; Husband: Consultant; Wife: Editor
Bing did a great job helping me with anxiety. I had been crippled with panic attacks to the point that I was only able to go to work and home again. Even going to the store was a major challenge and I had not been outside my home town alone for a number of years. Anxiety was the number one cause of the breakup of my previous relationship. Bing helped me understand what anxiety was and how it had been affecting my life. I learned what my life could be instead and in a step-by-step process began to deal with the negative thoughts in my head. We dealt with the root causes and did not just put a band-aid on it.
Because I was single again, I also had to learn to deal with the loss of my relationship, to heal and to be content with who I am as a single person. I still have a ways to go, but am excited that I can be OK with being single for now. The panic of being single again is gone and I am learning how to relax, to seek friendship and to be a whole person. As a result of seeing Bing, I feel, without a doubt, like I'm coming away as a better and stronger person.
Single male, 32, Business Owner
We walked into our first counseling session with little hope that our marriage of 8 years would be able to be saved. We both had already spoken with our lawyers about a divorce, and both thought that divorce was the only answer.
Bing helped us realize that we still had a lot of things in common, and had reasons to stay together. After helping us recognize the patterns that we had fallen into, and being taught methods to get out of those patterns, things began to improve for us. He helped us to see that we could both come to a happy middle ground, rather than each taking the extreme position. Several techniques we learned helped us to talk through problems rather than fight our way through them. Before, arguments were usually one-sided with one of us doing all the arguing, and the other simply withdrawing from the conversation. We (are now) able to make our conversations more productive and more fulfilling for both.
We were so happy with the results we obtained from our counseling sessions with Bing, that we have recommended his services to other couples going through similar marital problems. Thanks to Bing's help we will be celebrating our 4th wedding anniversary (together) in October.
Married 8 years; Husband: Computer Specialist; Wife: Law Enforcement
When we came to Bing we didn't (think we had) much of a marriage left. We were ready to divorce and felt that if there was going to be a marriage to save we needed counseling. One of us was pretty hesitant about the counseling idea, however. After a few sessions we began to see some positive changes in our relationship. The communication tools that Bing helped to demonstrate and have us practice, were extremely beneficial. We have started to get closer to one another again, and it has helped us to be more in love. (This was encouraging to us, especially) after building such destructive relationship patterns (prior to coming to therapy). We feel Heart to Heart has allowed us to build a strong healthy relationship as part of a building block to a complete future for (our) family.
Married 4 years; Husband: Self-employed; Wife: Counselor
My husband and I have been married for almost eleven years and have been together for thirteen and a half. Both of us have had previous marriages that ended in divorce. Together we have five children, his and hers, none of them ours together. We had a great marriage, great children, a very nice home and both of us had what I would call medium income jobs. It seems to me that our marriage began to suffer when all the children left. It was as if we didn't know each other. The focus hadn't been on us as a couple, maybe ever. After two or three years of living in the house with just the two of us, we seemed to argue all the time. Always second guessing what the other would do next just to irritate or annoy. I began leaving the house a lot, frequent trips to the store, my sister’s, or just to drive around. I didn't feel we had any love for each other and I didn't want to face that, or give in when I was certain it was all my husbands fault. I felt he had assumed the roll of father over me. This in turn, caused my husband to feel unloved and abandoned. After a death in the family we separated because it had become so bad. Everyone involved ,children, family, church, all were in disbelief. My husband sought a counselor and found Heart to Heart Communication. Through counseling with Bing at Heart to Heart we have become a married couple that we had no idea existed. We have a relationship now that is the strongest it has ever been and we are so incredibly in love. We have learned to listen to each other, appreciate each other and understand that we are different people yet we feel as one. I would have never believed that anyone could help repair this marriage. With Bing’s help we did. I moved back home after two long months and I know that if we continue to practice and work at what Bing has taught us, we will grow old together. I would have to say that our family, church and counselor are what saved our marriage. Only through Christ are we one and with Christ as our focus, we will be. We give much credit to Bing and the Christian faith with counseling. Without that our focus would have never changed.
Married: 11 years; Husband: industrial; Wife: nursing.
We are very grateful for the support we received from Heart to Heart Communication and are positive that had we not sought professional help with our situation, our 16 years of marriage would be over. We had been living with much disrespect for each other as well as a lack of appreciation for several years. Our household was very tense and we basically got to the point of living separate lives. Both of us came across situations in which we found someone else to fill the void in our lives that our spouse was not filling. After many tears and a lot of courage, we decided that we had too much invested in our marriage to throw it away and if there was a chance for it to work we would need help. We started counseling with Bing Wall and realize now that it was the smartest decision we had ever made. He taught us how to communicate with each other without fighting and how to handle disagreements in a productive way. Bing never passed judgement on what we know were poor decisions and made us feel comfortable during a very critical time in our lives. We now feel as if we have the skills to make our marriage last forever. Our only regret is that we didn't call Heart to Heart sooner.
Married 16 years; Husband: military; Wife: retail.